Understanding Negative Thinking

What are Negative Thoughts?

Negative thoughts are usually associated with negative emotions such as feelings of low self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence. Feelings of sadness, worthlessness, anxiety, anger and frustration.

Sometimes we don’t always recognise that they are actually negative thoughts, as we don’t question them, believing they are neither unreasonable nor unbelievable.

Whilst we all have occasional periods of feeling low and thinking negatively, if this starts to become a long-term way of thinking about ourselves and our surroundings, it can have a serious effect on both our mental and physical health. It could also be a symptom of other mental health conditions such as

  • Anxiety
  • Stress
  • Depression
  • Obsessive compulsive disorder

Typical negative thoughts can be things like

  • I’m not good enough
  • I’m a bad parent, partner, friend, son or daughter
  • I’m not worthy
  • People are much more successful than me
  • I don’t feel attractive
  • Everything I do is wrong

Causes

There is no single cause for negative thinking, some people believe that it comes from shame about the past, which could be caused by trauma or abuse. Anxiety about the present, which could be anything from relationship or family issues, financial problems, work issues or relocation worries. Or fear of the future but you need to remember that no one knows what the future holds, so worrying about it achieves nothing but unnecessary anxiety. Try to focus on the present, and deal with any worries, or seek help if you are unable to resolve these, or issues from your past.

Physical Symptoms

  • Finding it hard to sleep
  • Lacking energy and feeling tired
  • Weight loss or gain
  • Struggling to remember things
  • Headaches
  • Stomach upsets
  • Chest pain
  • Fatigue

Psychological Symptoms

  • Expecting the worst all the time
  • Hating yourself
  • Lacking confidence
  • Feeling alone
  • Feeling irritable or angry
  • Feelings of guilt
  • Feeling sad

Behavioural Changes

  • Feeling you just can’t be bothered about anything even thinks you usually like
  • Finding it difficult to make decisions
  • Avoiding friends and family
  • Putting off doing thinks you need to do
  • Crying

Self Help

The internet is full of information about negative thinking and ways to help yourself. This includes things like mindfulness which teaches you to detach yourself from your negative thoughts and view them as though they weren’t your own, making them easier to solve.

Meditation which can help you relax and focus on positive thinking. Simple things like improving your diet and sleep pattern, taking exercise, listening to music or spending time with pets which will help lift your mood and reduce negative thoughts. Talking to family or friends and telling them how you feel, keeping a diary so you can question if your thoughts are realistic, if you would gain or lose by thinking that way.

Professional Help

If you still find yourself struggling to overcome your negative thinking alone, ask your doctor if he can help or consider therapy if they are unable to offer it. Therapies such as counselling, clinical hypnotherapy, psychotherapy and particularly cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) can help you to retrain your negative thinking.

Written by Jan, Jeana and Wendy at Barnsley Hypnosis and Counselling (UK). For more free information click above link.

Ways to Bring in Extra Money

Life is never predictable. Sometimes things will happen beyond your control such as the temporary loss of a job. The good news is there are ways to bring in extra money to help you stay afloat. 

For the Immediate Future

Initially, after losing income or having a large unexpected bill to pay, you need to have money to maintain your bills at their current status. One way is to refinance your mortgage. If you don’t have enough equity or don’t meet the bank’s criteria, you can opt for a small loan. Online loan places Duncan, OK provide small, affordable installment loans. This will allow you to keep your finances stable for the short term. 

Bringing in Extra Money

Luckily, you will be able to collect state unemployment benefits. However, the amount you receive will be less than half of your regular salary or greater. Finding another source of income is important. Thankfully, there are many online jobs you can do from the comfort of your home. Freelance writing and editing for blogs and companies are in high demand. Tutoring, virtual assistants, and data entry jobs are also easy to find. If you have a talent such as woodworking, you can make items and sell them on various sites. Babysitting, dog walking, and driving for Uber or Lyft are other options. 

Smart Shopping

When you lose a portion of your income you need to offset the loss by spending money wisely. Take a look at your monthly gas, electricity, and water bills to see where you can cut costs. You should also consider reducing your cable to basic service or cutting it out altogether. You can use streaming services such as Netflix and Hulu for short money. Food shopping can run a few hundred dollars or more weekly. Use the fliers provided by your local supermarkets to find the best prices on the items you need. Combine that with coupons available online through reputable sites for free. In the short-term, you should also avoid eating out.

Garage Sale

Sometimes coming up with a few hundred dollars is as easy as cleaning out your garage, basement, and attic. Over the years, most people hang onto furniture, tools, baby clothes, and books that they no longer use. Take a weekend to sort through items to see what’s in good condition and then post signs to let neighbors and passersby of the upcoming yard sale. It’s a great way to bring in extra cash and clean out your home. 

Bundle Services

Bundling services like cable, the internet, and insurance provides an instant way to save 20 percent or more annually. Companies want customer loyalty, and they reward them for putting more than one service they provide together. 

Do the Work Yourself

You may have a landscaper that mows your lawn weekly and pay someone to change your oil every few months. These are services that you can do on your own for far less. 

Life happens and sometimes it can bring about the need for extra money. Luckily, there are many ways to bring in extra revenue.